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August 8, 2010


poor george

by Andrea O'Connell

I wonder, if you took the time to read the Anthony’s letters to Casey, did you come away with the feeling that you were eavesdropping, too?

In all the letters from Cindy and George there were two constants: they continuously begged Casey to allow them to see her and begged (Casey) to write back to them.

When I got to George Anthony’s letters, I wanted to stop reading.  I felt as though I were intruding.  I also believe that George never imagined that his letters would be public.

I have read that some people believe the letters were “staged” and that the Anthony’s were putting on an act to create more reasonable doubt…. well, I can’t agree or disagree with that contention because I just don’t know.  But, I do know my gut reaction, and I feel like an eavesdropper on their private family issues.

I no longer have a great deal of sympathy for the Anthony’s, but part of me feels so sorry for them, for their total denial – it’s got to be painful and completely unhealthy, would you agree?

It was the every-day tone of the letters that told me so much by saying so little.  It told me of their mundane lives, their lack of a life outside of their grief that is the only constant.

Poor George wrote to Casey and begged and begged her to allow him to see her.  So did Cindy – they begged her to please, please give them just ‘one more moment’….  The family, including Lee, were hanging their hopes on the request before Judge Perry to allow the Anthony’s to visit Casey sans video taping.  Of course that motion was recently denied, but the Anthony’s were desperately hoping it would be granted as they desperately want to see Casey.

(Of course Judge Perry denied that motion, as he should have.  Why give Casey Anthony privileges beyond every other inmates rights?  He couldn’t do that.)

Back to the mundane letters.   In a couple of George’s letters, in a typical father-to-his-daughter tone, he tells her twice that her license renewal recently came in the mail and to please have Jose get Casey to sign it.  He warns her that if she fails to sign her driver’s license renewal, she’ll have to take the drivers test all over again.

George wants to make sure Casey can drive and I said to myself, this can’t be!  If this were fiction, we’d not believe this!  Poor George; does he think Casey is concerned with her drivers license when she’s fighting for her life?

And, Cindy suggesting that someday Casey would make a fine attorney.  Casey, when this is all over, could go to law school.  (I am not making this up.)

There are additional instances of pure absurdity, but I feel as if it’s just mean of me to discuss them; as if I am making fun of them, and that is not my intention.

The letters are mostly about family things – the everyday things that happen in nearly every family at one time or another: the drama of a beloved pet dying and when and how to bury it; cousins, the aunts and uncles; Grandparents health.  But underneath it all is the one great burden that few of us will ever have to bear: losing a Granddaughter at the hands of a daughter.  How one deals with the sadness of that, I hope you and I never know.

And then, all of a sudden, the letters stop –  not with their characteristic whisper, but with a heavy bang and a punch in the gut.  It was a letter from George regarding Casey’s abuse allegation that brought the deafening blow.

In this March 25, 2010 letter, George says:

Casey Marie,

Where do I begin???

Well, met with Jose & Cheney Mason on Wednesday, March 24th.

Jose in Cheney Mason’s office delivered me disturbing news & ask me 2 heart breaking questions?

You know what 2 questions he asked.

and I am num ….. (sic)

Why, why also destroy Lee…

Why, why also destroy Mom…

Why, why also destroy me, your family…

Why, why also destroy Caylee Marie…

After all I have tried, sacrificed, continued to have you, my daughter, why???

Continually coming to court, continually wanting to see you, why???

Poor George.  I don’t know if I have the words to express what he might be going through.  However, there was another very curious piece of material among the letters.  It was a clip from a piece that blogger “Blink on Crime” wrote.  I’m paraphrasing here, but basically it said:

‘Casey will get the death penalty when all is said and done, because she has a smarmy lawyer who will try to blame Casey’s parents for the crime, which won’t work and will backfire.’

And, sure enough, it has come to pass with the recent investigation of George.

Poor George.

14 Comments Post a comment
  1. Diana
    Aug 8 2010

    I agree……..It really is sad *Andrea,

    For this entire family to still beg and plead with Casey to just answer their letters. Talk about kicking someone when they are down! This seems to be how Casey Anthony has treated the entire family her whole life. They need to stop writing and stop supporting her by coming to court, and maybe she will finally get a clue.

    From the letters it seems to me that Jose is the carrier pigeon with messages. He is probably just making up what she says to tell them, because I see no signs of any love from her in court towards them.

    I think they all know deep down that she is guilty, but the truth is so devastating that it’s much easier to not accept it and live with the lie.

    • Andrea
      Aug 8 2010

      Hi Diana!

      Yes, that’s right, Jose has been acting as the carrier pigeon, with a mind of his own, probably. Sadly, George keeps telling her “you’re the boss” but she’s not in control, I don’t think….I get the sense that she’s totally divorced from what’s happening to her and yet she’s acutely aware of her guilt, which is why she cannot speak to her parents, or anyone, for fear of making more incriminating statements.

      I agree, they know deep down – George surely does, but he’s playing along at Cindy’s behest; and Cindy is playing dumb because to act any differently would be to face the bitter reality of what’s happened… There’s no way she can go there… Even a guilty verdict may not pull her from the de-Nile river. 😉

      Thanks so much for your comments, Diana, and thanks for “liking” my post! Do you have a blog on here, too? I must visit! Will you leave the URL? Or maybe I can search and find it…LOL!

  2. Hilde
    Aug 8 2010

    Andrea~~ You are a busy Bee today 🙂
    The way it seems to me is Casey blames her Parents for what she did to her Daughter and therefore she doesn’t feel she did anything wrong, after All if her Parents would been more understanding toward her she wouldn’t have felt the Need to harm her Daughter, so I guess she blames her Parents especially Cindy. Very sad indeed.
    Mind You that is why she is acting toward her Parents now the Way she does. Of course that is like always just my Opinion.

    • Andrea
      Aug 8 2010

      Hey Hilde! I know! It’s been a rainy, rainy day here and so I’m just enjoying the excuse to stay inside and chill and write a little!

      I tell you what, Hilde – you have got it right about Casey blaming her parents for what she’s done… And little do they know, the fact that the family is so torn up over Caylee’s murder, does not please Casey one single bit. Casey is so jealous of her daughter, even in death.

      I think you have a very valid point, Hilde. And, the defense will blame the parents out-right, I have a feeling.

  3. Hilde
    Aug 8 2010

    One more thing, I feel maybe George and Cindy should step back for a while and let Casey think about everything especially how she is treating her Parents. They are the Ones who want to believe in her no matter what in spite what they must feel deep in their Heart. It can’t be easy for them to realize their own Daughter harmed their precious Grand Daughter out of Spite. I can’t even imagine that.
    It really doesn’t matter how we feel about George or Cindy, no one deserves to go through what they are going through.

  4. Weezie
    Aug 10 2010

    I haven’t read the letters yet, but I will. Isn’t it a sorry mess when a young adult/child, such as Casey has so much power over her adult/childlike parents? This is all upside down, so no wonder the pleadings are offered.

    For whatever reasons this cunning Casey has masterfully managed to manipulate, strangulate and mesmorize her parents and sometimes brother – Lee. It is a sorry day, when the world gets to see all of those personal letters. I am not of the opinion that the state should have these rights to pass over every little bit of discovery up to and including personal letters, to the PRESS. I can see that it should be discoverable if fought in court but to just put out all the documents as if they don’t mean a thing is just over the top for me.

    Our justice system is quite the opposite. The defendant is protected by such rights as private and confidential. Oh my, don’t the Defence have their hands full. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when Cindy and George first heard of Casey’s claims of abuse!!! Is there noone she will leave unscathed? Just think, if she did kill Caylee, these fits of lying and accusations are nothing more than fodder for a clinically disturbed KILLER>

  5. Aug 14 2010

    I won’t read the letters, I think it is wrong that they are being published. These Sunshine laws are nuts 🙂

    • Andrea
      Aug 16 2010

      Hi Ina,

      I know what you mean… That was the sense I felt as I read them – almost like a sense of voyeurism…. reading information that was too personal, and very painful.

  6. Aug 16 2010

    Those mails were never meant to be read by others, and the people who wrote them, are not on trial. Strange they have no privacy at all? Hi 🙂

    • Andrea
      Aug 24 2010

      Yes, it’s true… at one time I believed the letters were “meant” to be read, but as I began to read more carefully, I saw they were very personal and I almost felt badly about reading them…….. Although George and Cindy are not on trial, they will be powerful witnesses against Casey in the trial, and then they will be used during to penalty phase by the defense, IMO.

  7. New Yorker
    Aug 20 2010

    I agree George and Cindy should be investigated, or the defense wouldn’t be doing their job. After all, George and Cindy lived at the home also, and NEVER bothered to call in a missing child until they actually had to. I can go on and on however I dont want to sound like a robot. Long story short, I predicted George would be investigated 2 yrs ago, it just took some time. If he had nothing to do with it, then he has nothing to be worried about, same with Cindy but both of them are guilty of covering up a crime, that is a fact! I just want the RIGHT Anthony to be held responsible! It’s about Justice, not feeling sorry for a dysfunctional family.

    • Andrea
      Aug 24 2010

      You are absolutely right, New Yorker, it is about justice, plain and simple. I will say this, however, what were the Anthony’s to do? They couldn’t exactly call the police with their concern because Casey was an adult, and she was not missing. They hadn’t seen Caylee, and they were frantic about that, but I think had they themselves called the police, there would not have been too much the police could have done since Casey was an adult. I know they sent Lee looking for her at the club that one night, and Cindy tried to track her down at her “work” at Universal, and it does seem, in retrospect, like they didn’t try hard enough, but I wonder what could they have done? What could they truly have done?

      But, what is despicable is the pure fact that once the picture started coming into focus that Casey was responsible, that’s when Cindy was less than forthcoming, played with the evidence (the hairbrush), and painted Casey as a martyr mother.

      It was after the facts came out that they truly dissembled and their dysfunctional behavior (complete with diatribes against the State and the Detectives) starting showing its ugly face.

  8. New Yorker
    Aug 20 2010

    As far as abuse claims? The abuse claims was actually old news. KC did mention to friends a few times about the abuse even before all of this happened so I dont know why it is questioned! Could be the reason behind her anger pertaining to her mother etc….Not that it’s an excuse but it explains the family dynamics which is critical in a case like this in my opinion…None of this of course I doubt will change the outcome of this case however there are more ppl that need to be charged and looked into in my opinion….Good night!

  9. Andrea
    Aug 24 2010

    You are right there – these claims were spoken about early on, before the murder. But, for what it’s worth, the defense will make hay with the claims to spare her from the death penalty. They will try to use what every sympathy ploy they can muster, is what I think… 🙂


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