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little leiby kletzky

I almost didn’t make it to my computer tonight!  Came home from work and proceeded to fall asleep on the couch until 9:00 tonight!

I don’t have too much to discuss, since the night is nearly over!

Also, I’m a bit down tonight, too.  I applied to be a Big Sister in the Big Brothers and Big Sisters organization in my area.  But learned today that they have more Big Sisters than they have kids.  I was really, really looking forward to it.

After the Casey Anthony verdict, I resolved to get involved in the community and give back to kids in need.

I’m so disappointed.  There will come a time when they need Big Sisters again.  In the meantime, they need volunteers in other areas, so I’ll do that until there are more kids in the program.

I read an article today about Leiby Kletzky, a little 8 year old in Brooklyn New York, who was taken off the street, murdered and dismembered by a sick monster who pretended he was helping the young boy, who’d lost his way, to turn in the direction of his home.

It is incredibly sad.  Little Leiby Kletzky, had convinced  his parents that he was big enough to walk home from day camp by himself.  He desperately wanted his independence.  He finally convinced his parents to allow it.  They held dry runs, to make sure young Leiby could find his way home those seven blocks.

The big day came, and the loving mother waited patiently and waited and waited and waited for Leiby.  He never made it home.  Even after all the rehearsals, little Leiby Kletzy got confused and was lost.  And then, he happened upon a 35 year old, Levi Aron who appeared to be so helpful.

I am going to pass over the details, but I will tell you that Levi Aron suffocated the boy, dismembered him and placed him in his refrigerator.

This is the part that confuses me: This despicable monster is charged with 2nd degree murder.  SECOND degree?!  I don’t understand how Casey Anthony could be charged with 1st Degree Murder, but this crime is 2nd degree?

Is this fair?

I must be missing something.

In her article, “Mourning a Loss, Blaming the Bereaved” author Susan Doherty writes:

…comments on a New York Times article about the tragedy threatened to devolve into blamefest. What were the parents thinking to let such a small child out alone on the city streets? On the other hand, parents who hover over their children in a vain attempt to protect them from any possible danger are crippling them for life. And so on.

In addition to hoping the bereaved parents don’t read this nonsense (or hear the same sentiments from “concerned” friends and neighbors), I have been thinking about why we feel compelled to do this to each other–to kick our fellow parents when they are most vulnerable; to assume — and announce — that the way we would (or believe we would) respond to a challenge is the only legitimate way, and those who behave differently need to be sorted out.

For one thing, there is what psychologists call the “belief in a just world.” We look for reasons, however irrelevant, why unfortunate people deserve their misfortune, and why we would never be caught in the same predicament. This helps us feel safer in unpredictable and frightening situations, such as parenthood.

The “belief in a just world,” I think, is a syndrome that is very relevant and prevalent in so many tragic situations.  In the Casey Anthony case, we all held opinions and never hesitated to prognosticate about Cindy and George Anthony and how they should have behaved, or reacted these last few years.

I know it’s not fair to judge someones shoes unless I’ve walked in them… It’s really unfair for so many reasons.

There by the grace of God go I.

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